Book in Polish by Agnieszka Kozak, Jacek Wasilewski. Words that destroy. Words that build Sekielski Brothers Studio: Dying Life - Author's interview with Malgorzata Serafin From the beginning of our lives, we function among words. They create and shape us when we are little and bigger children - beings who are the most vulnerable and defenceless against messages from parents, grandparents, caregivers in kindergarten and school. Words give us an identity, with words we are clothed either with power and self-esteem or with social expectations that stem from fear, immobilising. Words create patterns of thought and action with which each of us unconsciously goes through life. Such words are like incantations. They can take away the voice, because "children and fish have no voice". They can freeze emotions, because "boys don't cry". They can obscure needs - 'don't make trouble'. They can take away the courage to express ourselves when we keep hearing "don't freak out". They can dormant the life in us for years to come. Fortunately, in the face of these cuss words, we are not defenceless. Once we become aware of which fateful phrase is controlling us, we can shake it off by referring to other, healing words; we can create a new reality for ourselves and become fully ourselves. Because words have power. Destructive or healing. And it is only up to us in the end which ones we resort to Listen to inspiring talks by Agnieszka Kozak and Jack Wasilewski: Why is it a good gift to support a child? What's good to give our inner child for Children's Day? In the media about the book: Psychologiaprzykawie.pl: Trapped in the words of parents Onet.pl: Can we influence the patterns in our heads? Tokfm.co.uk: Our parents trapped us in words. How do we free ourselves from the spells cast on us as children? Deon.co.uk: Words have great power. On people trapped in their parents' 'spells' Gliwice News: How to react to a bad certificate, how to accompany a child in choosing a school? Let's not cast bad spells on children! Deon.co.uk: Psychotherapist: words spoken with love are the best gift for Children's Day Deon.co.uk: Forgiveness is letting go of emotional deposits that rot inside us Polskieradio.pl: The power of words on Children's Day Sekielscy.pl: How to free ourselves from the spells cast on us in childhood Ofeminin.co.uk: 'Don't make trouble' turns people off. It means: "disappear", "be gone". Chillizet.pl: Agnieszka Kozak and Jacek Wasilewski on the power of words and the book